In nature, we see everywhere how teams function successfully: Ants show us how division of labour works perfectly, fish teach us intelligent shoaling behaviour, starlings form flight formations to protect themselves from airborne attackers, wolves organize themselves into packs. We humans also need each other. We belong to families, create networks in our private and professional lives and usually work in teams. Nature teaches us how to build and maintain successful teams.
Dealing with criticism
Posted on Wed July 20, 2022.
Somehow, we have come to falsely believe that when we are criticized by our parents, friends, team members, or others around us, that this criticism is about our Self, our being as a person. We have mistakenly taken criticism personally.
However, supportive and constructive criticism is always aimed at supporting our actions. Also called our "doing". It can therefore never be an attack on our being. Unfortunately, we do not make this crucial distinction and mistakenly believe that the received criticism is about our whole being, also called our "self". We internalize this criticism and begin to doubt ourselves.
Unconstructive criticism is intended to harm you personally and says everything about the person who directs it at you. This form of criticism is often not received in an honest and open one-on-one conversation but in the form of emails or maybe social media messages. The sender acts out of his or her own fear and often therefor cannot face you personally.
Whatever might be, you can choose from now on to make this essential distinction and leave behind the world that criticism is about you personally. The first question you should ask yourself in earnest is: Is this constructive or unconstructive criticism?
Welcome constructive criticism into your life and treat it as an opportunity to grow from now on. You say; “Hey, here is a fellow human being who cares about me and is happy when I am doing better and grow further!”
Slowly but surely, as we grow as human beings we find that our being is enough as it is right now. The fact is that as you stand or sit there now, you are perfect, you are wonderful, and you are unlimited. You don't have to be anything else and you don't have to do anything to deserve love. You are simply whole and you are worth to be loved. Always and forever from now on!
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